How many days you have left with your parents
We count the years with our parents, but we live them in days. This counts the days together at your pace, so you can choose your pace on purpose.
Your numbers
Common answers are filled in. Change the ones you know.
Typical: 62 years. Put in yours.
Leave it at 0 to use the average for their age in India. Many people live far longer than the average.
It only changes the order on your statement.
What waiting costs you
168 days left
At this pace, about 168 more days together
That's 10 days a year for about 16.8 years. Your plan of 30 days a year would add about 336 days.
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How we worked this out
- Years: about 16.8, the average at age 62 in India. It's a group average, not a prediction.
- Days together now: 10 a year × 16.8 years = 168.
- With your plan: 30 a year × 16.8 years = 503.
- Missed while it waited: (30 minus 10) × 12 months ÷ 12 = 20 days.
- How much it matters to you: 7 out of 10. It only changes the order on your statement.
Fixed figures
- Average years left at 62: 16.8 years
Sources
- Tim Urban, The Tail End (2015): Counting the days you have left with someone, instead of the years, shows how much of that time may already be behind you.
- WHO Global Health Observatory (2020): In India, a person who reaches 60 lives about 17.8 more years on average.
- UN World Population Prospects (2024): In India, a person who reaches 80 lives about 7.6 more years on average.
How it works
We multiply the days a year you spend together by the years ahead. For the years, we use the average for your parent's age in India, or your own number.
In India, a person who reaches 60 lives about 17.8 more years on average, and at 80, about 7.6. Many people live far longer than the average.
The idea comes from Tim Urban's essay The Tail End.
Sources
- Tim Urban, The Tail End (2015): An idea, not data. The numbers come from your answers and the averages below.
- WHO Global Health Observatory (2020): A group average, never a prediction for one person. The 2021 figure dipped to about 15.6 during COVID, so we use 2020.
- UN World Population Prospects (2024): A group average from a secondary site. Between 60 and 80 we draw a straight line.
Questions people ask
Isn't this a sad thing to count?
It can feel heavy. The point is to choose more time together on purpose. If it brings up difficult feelings, you can call Tele-MANAS for free on 14416.
Why use an average?
Because nobody knows anyone's future. It's a rough guide for a large group, never a prediction. You can use your own number instead.
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